Are there magic words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? I know it sounds too good to be true but there ARE words that will certainly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
So I am going to answer…”How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”
First, let me fore warn you!
In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay out a complete strategy.
If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy… you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
What NOT to Say!
Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works.
Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD. Where the message sounds like:
John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.
And the EMERGENCY:
Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?
So, I won’t go on and on…
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are
- Curiosity &
- Self Interest
And here’s the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’
Let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Before you call you need to do the “Set Up”… which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing…but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly…
Please have an underlying strategy like I lay out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.
If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.
What I am saying is…
What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Make sense? Have a PLAN!.
Have Your Say….
If you have had any experience with Magic Words please leave your comments.